Every women’s desire
It is every females’ desire to find and look for an ideal man to be with for the rest of their life on this earth…in fact it is God’s plan that man shall leave his parents and to be united with his wife and they shall live together and multiply. How do we know what type of man is the ideal partner God has given us? Women do u have an opinion regarding this topic?
U may be wondering and thinking through jus like most of the single females out there. U dont wish to end up in marriage failure and do not wanna leave any rooms for regret later…becos of the lack of confidence to step into this life-span commitment you never wanna have a second thought of this topic. I believe persoanlly I do have this phobia of commiting oneself into this life-long relationship. What is the reason behind, well there are many factors…firstly is always starts from the family. What kind of family background we were being raise up?
AS for me I was raise up in a can say a ‘defect-marriage’ family background. I am not sure in which catagory I would fall into but as far as Im concern I determine not to follow the bad track of my parents. Im not ashamed though about this, but I’ve seen many failures n brokeness from the people around me which leads to the lack of confidence in me to get involve too. But as i came across this articles I find it very useful and encouraging to SINGLE GODLY-MINDED females out there who might be having the same of of dilemmas like me…Please read ON and if u have any other suggestions or related topic dont hesitate to share with me!
Below is the article I quoted from crossdaily.com-singles.
Let’s
look together at the preparations you must make. And by the way, you,
too, have a protector – the Holy Spirit – who will help you make the
necessary alterations.
Preparing Your Attitude. What is the necessary attitude needed to become a princess? You must have the conviction that you deserve a prince of a man.
It surprises me how many women have attitudes of discouragement and pessimism.
You
must believe that you can find a good man, that you deserve a good man,
and that you can attract a good man. You must make yourself available
and take the risks necessary to attract your prince. If you are not at
that point yet, don’t despair. You simply have some work to do.
Preparing Your Expectations.
Unlike Cinderella, you have no magic wand. Your preparation must
interact with God’s timing. That means you must guard your expectations
about timing. It may take time, and testing, before you are ready for
your prince.
It
is important to expect a man who will work on the relationship with
you, who will strive to deepen his emotional and spiritual life, and
who will commit himself to you completely and faithfully. Too many
women settle for too little from their men. Consider raising the bar.
Settle for nothing less than a relationship filled with zest, emotional
warmth, spiritual integrity, and, yes, commitment.
Preparing Your Presentation.
A princess is not overly demanding, arrogant, or critical. She is
elegant and classy. She has a way of insisting on what she needs and
being clear when expressing her needs and desires.
Katherine,
a client of mine, is a woman in her 50s. She has an air of confidence
and a bold, spiritual depth. Previously married, Katherine has grappled
with painful aspects of her divorce. She suffered as people within the
church said hurtful things about her. But she always carried herself
with dignity. She survived the divorce and gradually moved into dating.
Katherine shares about her experience.
“After
my divorce I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. I was bitter, angry.
I had lots of resentment toward my ex and toward men. Even after I
started dating, I didn’t put my best foot forward, and attracted the
wrong kind of men. It took me really forgiving myself for the failed
marriage and allowing God to heal my hurt. I changed my attitude and my
wardrobe, and that’s when miracles started to happen.”
Katherine
married recently, having met a minister who had been widowed several
years earlier. Today they enjoy a vibrant and dynamic ministry.
Preparing Your Vision.
After you’ve prepared your attitude, clarified your expectations and
honed your presentation, you’ll need a firm vision. A firm vision is a
picture you carry in your mind of your prince.
A
client named Joan shares her vision. “I want a Christian man who is
loving, tender and kind. He needs to be athletic, love children and be
interested in travel. He needs to be compassionate and have a heart for
the hurting and less fortunate in the world.”
Studies show that the more clearly and precisely you describe your
vision, the more likely you are to achieve it. Envision the kind of man
you want. Prayerfully share with the Lord the dreams you have and let
Him help you with the rest.
Preparing Your Heart.
Having prepared your attitude, expectations, presentation and vision,
you must make sure your heart is right. The scriptures encourage us to
“Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4: 23).
This is a huge challenge, for it seems we either allow our hearts to be
battered and bruised, lock them in a vault, safe and secure from any
possible intruder.
The
task is to take healthy, discerning risks. If you have learned from
experience, made corrections to your attitude, spent time in the Word,
listened to God’s voice through the counsel of healthy friends – you
can take calculated risks in your dating life.
“For
I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper
you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah
29:11).
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